My Problem With Adam Lambert's AMA Performance

The kiss? *shrugs* Britney, Christina and Madonna did it years before at the VMAs, and it was a bit too "whores for propaganda" then, but we've since moved on. Nobody really talks about it anymore. It's certainly lost it's luster. So Adam Lambert's assertion that nobody would care if he were a woman, is kind of like pissing in the wind; a temper tantrum by someone who fancies himself an entertainer.

I watched the video, as I don't give a damn about AMAs or most music award shows anyway, seeing as how all the WRONG people get awards and all the right ones are still hustling for less recognition than they deserve.

I did watch the video and the whole thing just left a sour taste in my mouth. Talk about being raunchy for shits and giggles.

I know that sex supposedly sells, but how far is too far?

These times suck in my opinion. As a woman, and as a human being who considers herself very sexual, I can't even be down with the shit going on right now. Sex is a BEAUTIFUL thing. Sex is meaningful, it's deep, it's intimate, it's one of the most awesome things about being human. It's such a wonderful thing. Damn, it feels good. Somehow, we've cheapened it. Is it because we live in a hybrid porn/rape culture? My issue isn't him being sexual. I totally think Madonna's performance of "Like a Virgin" in the 80s was avant garde and just cool. She was being sexual and she owned it. I don't think there was anything cheap about her moves on the stage because the song itself was pretty much about being with someone for the first time. We all know that feeling. We're all virgins when we finally give ourselves to someone we've wanted for a long time.

But there was something about Lambert's performance of "For Your Entertainment" that was just cheap and tacky (not to mention that shitty ass singing...I mean DAMN!). The song was begging for attention, and then it seemed like he had to go overboard by his stage antics.

I mean I think he could have potential one day, but right now, he just joins the ranks of others who cheapen something pure for a profit.

Is This What's REALLY Sexy, Fellas?

I just have to find out if the men out there (and the ladies too) find this remotely sexy at all.

On my post at HappyNappyHead.com about Beyonce's "Video Phone" video, a "womanist" accused me of being self-righteous and slut shaming Beyonce for inquiring if I was the only one that noticed Beyonce's been getting "sluttier" with each new video, in order to garner fans.

She never did respond to my final post to her, but I will say it here.

This slut, jumpoff ass kind of behavior from these celebrities is too much. I understand the whole idea of "slut shaming". I've been on the receiving end of that, but let me tell you straight up, I wasn't being all that I could be when I was "slut shamed."

It's all about honesty. I played myself, and granted I was younger, I still played myself and the Slim of today would NEVER do something like that (oral) without getting something in return, something more concrete. I would've been more protective of my sexuality.

Is Tila acting like a bust down in this video? HELL YEAH! And it's shameful because this is a cry for attention because she doesn't love herself. If anything I feel bad for her. She is obviously shaken up by the Shawn Merriman situation, and she's looking for love in all the wrong ways.

It is NOT healthy behavior to do this on camera for people who really don't give a flying shit about her. It is not healthy to do this because she's playing herself for attention.

We all like attention, but playing yourself for it is always an indicator that something's really wrong.

Get help, Tila. There's nothing wrong with counseling, sister!

Eye Candy: James McAvoy

I had to give James McAvoy this week's eye candy, because when he came out of the tub in Wanted, he looked like he had just finished putting it down.

I mean, this is not a bad image to see, or even have your man recreate. Hot, wet, hands on belt buckle, looking like he either just finished ravishing you, or is about to.

He's not uber sexy, but he works.

Spent...

The last time we were intimate, he took me to places I'd never been. We've been together for so long, but he just keeps taking me higher. I never wanna stop.

That was Thursday night. I'd been terribly sleepy so I couldn't do anything on Friday. I fell asleep as soon as I hit the bed. Saturday was busy, and Saturday night, we went to bed upset with each other. I felt slighted by the things he didn't do when we went somewhere.

The next morning with clearer heads and better temperaments, we extended olive branches of peace. He asked me what I wanted to do after watching a movie. I said I wanted to make up for lost time.

He waited for me in the bedroom, and put our son in his high chair to play and watch Caillou.

He called me in and I got undressed. He told me to take off my underwear, and I got under the sheets where he waited. He engulfed me like a flame. He seemed hungry for it, urgent.

I was too. I let him kiss me. I let the smell of his favorite (mine too) cologne engage my senses. I love the way he smells, cologne or not. But when he wears his cologne, I always want to feel him throbbing between my legs. He licked and sucked my nipples, and I bit at his neck, rubbing his arms, smelling him. We kissed and he grabbed me and adjusted me on the bed. He rubbed his hardness against the eager ridge between my legs, while he kissed me, turning me on.

He guided himself inside me and proceeded to put his winning stroke on me. He started off slow, so we could kiss each other slowly. I sucked on lis lower lip, he sucked on my tongue.

I peaked and peaked and climaxed. He covered my mouth, I was screaming. He felt too good. He never understands why I make so much noise. If only we could trade places so he could see what I feel.

I got wetter with each stroke, and he became more determined to make me come. He let out a moan or a grunt, but he was intent on giving it to me. He lifted my leg up towards my shoulder, and I looked him in the eyes as he forged deeper and deeper inside of me. I never wanted this to stop.

"Give it to me from the back..." I breathed.

He told me to get up and I got up on my knees. As soon as he went in, I was on my face with my ass up, grabbing at the bed, pillows and the headboard. His head rolled back and I knew he was going to come, and I was coming too. He orgasmed and let the warm liquid spray all over my back.

I collapsed on my stomach, with butterflies in my stomach, both of us spent.

*Based on a true story *giggle*

Playboy Playmate Nicole Narian On Her Masturbation Fest and Sex Addiction

WOW!!! Dead at "clean the pipes."

I mean I've had days wear I'd get it in two or three times, but ALL day? That's torture....

Jodeci and H-Town Are Back?

I'm a little geeked by these two power groups from my teens and preteens coming together for this song in 2009.

I like it! Would you get down to this?

Tila Tequila's Weird Knife Striptease

Is this sexy? I find little acts like these so terribly misguided. I cannot imagine anyone really finding this sexy. I guess it's sexy if you like crazy broads that might cut off your penis in a fit of rage.

What do you think? Hot or not?

Is There Really Such a Thing As Pussy Control?

*sigh* Megan, Megan, Megan... What are we going to do with you and your mouth, girl?

"Women hold the power because we have the vaginas... If you're in a heterosexual relationship and you're a female you win."

I think this is the problem with a lot of relationships, as I have certainly failed at mine when I had that idea. The belief that one has more power over the other is counterproductive. I don't believe that a healthy relationship can ever flourish out of someone having power over the other one, or "winning." I mean, it's not like love is a race...

What do you make of Megan's comments?

No Stripping Allowed?

It used to be that I would try to do a lap dance or a strip tease, and it did the trick once. The other times, Mr. Slim didn't give me the reaction I expected.

I instantly thought something was wrong with me, like I was doing it wrong, etc. Then I thought something was wrong with him, and then I got angry. He never really articulated himself all that well until a few sundays ago.

Mr. Slim has a bit of a Madonna/Whore complex/situation, and stripping from the missus is really not doing it for him.

At first I was offended!

"What the fuck are you, a Republican?" Were my words *lol*

After some time, I realized that while it was not something I got, I could totally respect it. I talked to a homegirl whose been married for 10 years and she said it took into year five for her hubby to be down for strip shows at their house.

Maybe I was moving too fast. He honestly prefers for us to cuddle and kiss and all that stuff to get aroused. He's not so visual. He wants to feel, and definitely wants to be felt up.

I can dig it.

Have you ever been with a guy who wasn't turned on by stripping? Your thoughts?

Who Are These Women?

*sigh*

So I click on this video at WorldStarHipHop because damn it I'm curious. Some of the girls have good moves, I could use. Emphasis on SOME. Most of the girls have no technique and look crazy, this girl being one of them.

So I decided to see what was so big about her. I mean, I checked out her page (IAmSpicyJ.com) and I was greeted by a cheap looking Myspace page. Okay, I look around and see nothing but an average girl who is some kind of Myspace celebrity (lower rung) and I wanted to scream.

You know ladies, if you are going to be a "web celebrity" you'd better be good, and you'd better make moves. You will not go anywhere with the piddly comments these guys leave on your marginally attractive Myspace pages, Twitters or Facebooks. They are leaving the same comments for the chick that has a nose comparable to that of a pig's.

Simply shaking your ass (poorly) on camera on WorldStarHipHop of all places is a poor ass move.

If you're going to get into adult entertainment, because that's what it is, no matter how soft core it is, you may want to do the following:

1) Buy a damned domain already... This is self-explanatory.

2) Network: WSHH is not really networking. It's people taking the piss out of you for free.

3) Actually be good at what you do. Don't look like a muppet on acid, like SpicyJ over there.

4) Be magnetizing. If you're plain and dull as day in the brains and looks department, you will fail.

5) Be creative. For the love of God, dancing in your poorly decorated bedroom is not hot. It's average. Aim higher...

Until then, you'll just be some sad, pathetic girl dancing on camera while crusty dudes masterbate to your shitty dancing.

That makes me sad for you...

*le sigh* What happened to good, strong women who were about something? These cavewomen these days... Sheesh.